Your teen has their unique characteristics, and sometimes they can come across as defensive. But there are several reasons behind this behaviour that are definitely worth understanding.

Here’s why teens might be a little extra protective of their thoughts and feelings:

They’re developing their own identity 🧠

During their teenage years, they’re on a huge journey of self-discovery. They’re forming their own identities, beliefs, and values, and this can often makes them feel the need to defend their newfound perspectives and individuality.

They’re becoming more independent 🚶‍♀️

As your teen finds their own feet in the world, they naturally become more defensive when they feel as though their independence is threatened. This defensiveness can be a way to feel some control over their lives.

They’re scared of being judged 📲

Today’s society is quite literally a carbon copy of big brother – there’s eyes everywhere, expectations to live up to and trends to follow. The fear of being misunderstood or judged by others can make them defensive.

They’re trying to navigate their emotions 🌪

Teen years are a time of raging hormones and emotional turbulence. Your teen could be struggling with feeling out of control with their emotions and can then be quick to put up their walls to defend themselves from potential hurt or vulnerability.

Let’s give our teens the space they need to grow and express themselves! 💕

If you’re struggling to understand your teen’s behaviour, or feel as though you’re constantly fighting a battle with them – let’s chat and see how I can help them navigate these crucial years.